After a breakup it feels like the only way you can be happy again is by winning your ex back. That can be an overpowering feeling. If you are serious about getting them back there's three rules you need to follow.
1. Go out. Do something. Be social. Do activities that will get your mind off of the breakup. This will also allow you to reacquaint yourself with yourself so you know you can live just fine without them and are not dependent on them. You want to build your confidence back up so that what sparked the attraction before can be found again.
2. Winning your ex back will require you have a plan and stick to it. The first meetings are critical to do the right thing on. Make sure you ask how they've been doing and reestablish the friendly banter you once had. Make sure you know what you intend to do at each step and avoid anything that will drive you further apart. Have a good plan of action is very important to success.
3. Give each other some space and avoid contact for awhile. You need to figure out what caused the breakup and see where you stand. Your ex needs to do the same. This is one of the harder rules to follow since you will want to keep calling them and leaving messages. The initial space you each have after the breakup is important for reflection on what exactly drove you two apart. If you're serious about winning your ex back this step is probably the most important since it's totally opposite of what we want to try to do. Give yourself time to think about what happened and yourself as well.
Being depressed and feeling sorry for yourself are only likely to drive your ex further away. This version of you is also not the version they were in love with. You've got to be strong and be confident still. This is far from an end-all be-all blueprint for getting them back, but it will make getting them back much easier after the rules are followed.
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